Let’s Talk About Sex (+ Food) at Sexy Feast Dinners

Sexy Feast, Jay Friedman Photo: Daniel Berman

Food writer and sex-education lecturer Jay Friedman takes the concept of a group dinner to a whole new level with his “enlightening” food-and-sex dinner discussions.

What is it about sex and food? Oh right, consuming both is an enjoyable practice (you hope). That was an easy answer. Either can be performed dirty or refined, alone or with others.

Never has the phrase, “there’s too many cooks in the kitchen,” caused me such embarrassment to voice.

Preferences aside, there is now a safe venue for both food and sex (discussions) to take place. Jay Friedman, sex education lecturer and nationally recognized food writer, had been writing a “Sexy Feast” column for Seattle Weekly where each publication he dissected lessons to be learned in love and sex from one dish. And now…

Sexy Feast, Jay Friedman
Photo: Daniel Berman

“I’ve brought the Sexy Feast column to life,” Friedman says.

Here’s the sexy skinny: Area restaurants host a multi-course dinner, and much like a winemaker might explain pairings with the food, Friedman follows the chef’s introduction of each course with a description of what the food on the plate teaches us about sex. The dinners — for singles, couples or friends — are lively affairs, full of laughter and conversation.

“I’m hoping to give participants food for thought to help them in their relationships,” Friedman says. “At the same time, Sexy Feast helps them appreciate the creativity of the chefs, as they look at food in a whole different way — in terms of taste, texture, plating, etc.”

An idea that culinary savvy Seattleites can’t help but be pricked by. Jay’s straightforward, knowledgeable prose carries no sheepish embarrassment — just confidence, all of which earned his traveling show an interesting Valentine’s Day invitation.

“I recently did a dinner at Willows Inn on Lummi Island. This was a real treat, as Willows was just named by The New York Times as one of the world’s ‘10 restaurants worth a plane ride.’ The dining room was full of adults of all ages enjoying a spectacular meal. It was romantic, intimate and provocative. Someone even made a marriage proposal during the dessert course. I’d love to think I played a role in that, but even more, I hope I’ve helped them have a better sex life going forward!”

We all do Jay, we all do. As one might imagine, a marriage proposal is only the beginning of madness that can take place during one of Jay’s dinners. Language is loose but open, consistent with the students he spends his time lecturing across the country. Eyebrows are raised, but more importantly laughter is had, and a vested interest in food and sex remains at the forefront of each meal. Best for us, Jay isn’t running out of ideas.

“I recently ate pizza at Tutta Bella,” Friedman says. “The biggest predicament about pizza is what toppings to order. As with sex, you need to communicate and negotiate with your partner. Also, I ate a brisket slider with a side jus at Blackboard Bistro. This showed that meat can be good by itself, but that the experience can be better with ‘lubrication.'”

[Writer withholding further comment.]

Want to get in on the good stuff? The next Sexy Feast dinner is April 5 at 7 p.m. at Spur. The dinner includes four courses with wine for $125 (not including tax or tip). For reservations, call (206) 728-6706.

For more insights and other upcoming Sexy Feast dinners, check out Jay’s column at gastrolust.com where the name says it all.